Feeling fear is a natural part of life; you will encounter many situations that make you feel fear. At present many of us are feeling fear, including me. These are unprecedented times. You must know how to overcome these feelings so that they don’t stop you from achieving your goals and reaching your full potential. I want us all to use our feelings of fear as fuel to get to courage.
Here are 7 ways to overcome fear and take back control.
Understanding the root of your fears
You can’t overcome your fears without understanding them first. It can be hard to confront them and dig deep to untangle the ‘why’ behind your worries, but in doing so, you’re able to move forward and experience personal (and professional) growth. I’ve had a fear of failure since I was little. I now see failure as my greatest lessons and where growth and resilience come from.
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” Mark Twain
Be guided by your goals
A strategy I love when it comes to overcoming fear is breaking down a big goal into smaller, achievable goals. It’s also a good idea to make sure that some of your goals incorporate learning something new so that you’ve still got value out of the experience even if you do fail at some point. Make sure your goals include some that scare you, so you get plenty of practice in facing your fears to become more comfortable taking risks.
Work with a mentor or coach
Having someone who is outside of your regular circle of family and friends to advise and encourage you to conquer your fears. Mentors and coaches are also invaluable for professional development and growth, so this is an avenue to explore if you want that extra push personally and professionally.
“You cannot swim for new horizons until you dare to lose sight of the shore.” William Faulkner
Find a mantra that resonates with you
Repeating a mantra or personal affirmation when you’re feeling scared helps ease fearful feelings and grounds you.
A great mantra I recommend is “this too shall pass”. It reassures you that fear is temporary and repeating it when your fearful lowers the hesitant feelings you’re experiencing. Remember we are all in this together and we can do it.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
Realise that regret is worse than failure
While trying and failing at something can be hard to deal with, imagine if you had never even tried in the first place! For leaders, especially, failure is all but guaranteed due to the nature of leadership. Nearly any leader you ask will agree with the fact that regret feels much worse than failure! I personally don’t want to look back on my life and say I wished I dared to do that. Fulfil your dreams, stretch yourself, live life without regret.
“Courage is the most important of all the virtues because, without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.” Maya Angelou
Look at the fear in a positive way
See fear as a chance to challenge yourself, face it front on and think about how amazing it will feel after you’ve faced what scares you. Focusing on how you’re going to feel afterwards helps with easing the fear you believe in the moment, and actively working with your mind to turn negative thoughts to positive will serve you well in all areas of your life.
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You can say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Make small changes for big results
You wouldn’t launch straight into a marathon without training first, right?
Start with smaller actions so that you don’t feel too intimidated. Even the tiniest step, is a step forward, and you can’t change the world without changing your own world first.